Understanding Yourself and Others®:
An Introduction to Interaction Styles
– 2.0
By Linda V. Berens
Format: Booklet (Saddlestitch)
Size: 8 1/2" X 11"
Pages: 44
ISBN: 0974375187
Publish Date: Aug 1, 2008
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Part of the Understanding Yourself and Others® Series

Are you ready to have a process to explain what an ESTJ, ENTJ, ESTP and ENFJ all have in common? It is their interaction style! Learn and use this booklet with others to see the similarities between the different personality types and how they interact and communicate by looking at the four interaction styles:

  • In-Charge: ESTJ, ENTJ, ESTP, ENFJ
  • Behind-the-Scenes: ISFJ, INTP, ISFP, INFP
  • Chart-the-Course: ISTJ, INTJ, ISTP, INFJ
  • Get-things-Going: ESFJ, ENTP, ESFP, ENFP

from the back cover...
Like leaves of many colors, we each have a different energy. Each colored leaf excites the senses in different ways and evokes a different emotion just as each of us impacts and influences others in different ways. This energy is driven from within by our predispositions and yet influenced by our interactions with others.
There is richness and variety in the many ways we have of expressing who we are. The four interaction styles are patterns of behavior that have been described by many over the years. Each style has a theme-centered internal drive that helps set the boundaries of our comfort zone in the chaotic world of interpersonal relationships. If we can recognize our own style, we can better match our energy and know how to adapt and flex when necessary to reach goals and meet others at their view of the world.
Understanding Yourself and Others®: An Introduction to Interaction Styles reveals the four fundamental interaction style patterns for you to "try on" in your search for understanding yourself (and others). Within these patterns are clues to the "how" of our behaviors. Find out how you consistently see to fall into certain roles in your interactions with others and how you can shift your energies to take on other roles when necessary.
After seven years of working with this groundbreaking model, Linda Berens has completed version 2.0. She added two additional pages for each Interaction Style with expanded arrow pattern descriptions AND snapshots of four variations for each style. In addition, there is a new page devoted to the four energy patterns and the four decision-making styles. A conceptual change was made in the Things-in-Common section to help people clarify their Interaction Style. The focus on Control versus Movement was changed to a more bias free dichotomy of focus on Outcome versus focus on Process.

Table of Contents    

A Word from the Author iv
Introduction 1
Why 1

Coming to Know Your "Self" 2
History of the Four Interaction Style Patterns 2
Personality Instruments 2
Self-Discovery 3

The Nature of Interaction Styles 4
Interaction Style Is Inborn 4
Interaction Style Remains Constant 4
Interaction Style Drives Behavior 5
Interaction Style Is Dynamic, Not Static- Influencing, Not Limiting 5
Interaction Style Is a Pattern 6
Interaction Style Is Organic 6
Interaction Style Is a Communication 6

Exploring Your Interaction Style 7
Using Your Experiences 7
Four Interaction Styles 8
What Fits? 9

Behind-the-Scenes Interaction Style 10

Chart-the-Course Interaction Style 12

Get-Things-Going Interaction Style 14

In-Charge Interaction Style 16

Clarifying Your Interaction Style 18
Things-in-Common 18
Communication--Ways We Influence Others 19
Roles--Ways to Define Relationships 21
Attention--Focus and Interest 22

Patterns of Interaction Styles 23
The Four Interaction Style Patterns 23

The Interaction Style Arrows 24

The Graphic Representation 24

Identifying Others 26

Perspective Shifting 28
Energy Shifting Tips 28
Aspects of an Interaction 28
Interaction Styles and Stress 30

Where Do You Go from Here? 31
Honor the Differences in Yourself 31
Honor the Differences in Others 31
Welcome the Diversity 31

Appendix A: Essential Qualities of the Patterns 32
Appendix B: Frequently Asked Questions 36
Appendix C: Links to Other Models 37
Appendix D: References 39

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